I’m all about life, love, and recovery. I am just a girl and her God working on making the world a better place for all of us. I’m a writer, a mother, a new wife, and I’m a Jesus-Follower. I was a lawyer and I was a victim. I was many things to many people. Now, I’m just God’s beloved daughter.
I live in small town America with my dog, my daughter, and my husband. I have an adult son who doesn’t live at home anymore. I just try to do life the best that I can, with a lot of grace, a lot of forgiveness, and a lot of love. There’s a lot of coffee and quite a few deserts that help my go through life.
In 2008, I was about a year and a half out of a domestic violence relationship and I was in the process of burning my life down. That year in January, I decided to change my life. That was twelve years ago now. During that time, I have read a lot, done a lot of introspection, and evolved a lot more. I’ve overcome obstacles. My identity is grounded in Christ. I have developed a strong faith.
During those first years, I was introduced to the 12 steps by a friend. I read some books about the steps and went to a few meetings with him. It helped a little. I read some other things about eastern religions and integrated some of that into my life as well. But, it wasn’t quite enough.
In 2012, I decided to go back to church and turn back to God. I grew up in church and I grew away from it when I had some negative experiences when I was a young teen. I was looking for something more in life, something to fill my void inside. When I went back to church, I found it. I continued my recovery with Jesus by my side. It was slow process.
My recovery and evolution was based in my understanding that the Christian God is my higher power. The twelve steps helped me work through all the stuff that I had piled inside of me that was rotting and festering away.
The latter was the reason that I was involved in domestic violence relationships. I wanted out of the cycle of violence and poverty. I wanted to be different. I made it. Then I realized that I wanted to help other people get out, stop the cycle of violence. So I started writing about how I did it.
I began writing a book in late 2017. I knew that I was going to write a book for several years before that and I just couldn’t get the topic together. I knew that I should tell my story so that other women (and men, really) could experience recovery and a whole new way to do life the same way that I did. I had to wait until I got more recovery under my belt and until I could put all the words together in a helpful way. Finally, the words began to flow and out came about a hundred devotions on domestic violence and the healing that Jesus can give.
I’m currently finishing up a book called Fierce. As I’m finishing up the book, I realize that there is so much more to talk about and I can’t fit it all in the book. So, I’m putting it all out there for you. The book is a recovery devotion specifically geared to domestic violence victims.
The posts here are focused on life, love, and recovery. Life continues to go on around us after we leave our abusers. We lack skills, social graces, and we’re very rough around the edges. I want to create a public space to put together some things that we need to know. Love is a thing we all need and want. We deserve to have it in a safe way. I want to talk about what that looks like, how it feels, and what we should avoid. Recovery is necessary so that we can stop the cycle. It allows us to deal with the mess that is inside of us that makes a violent, jealous, and damaging relationship see okay to us.
In dealing with and evaluating these things, we can have a life and a love that we can rest easy in. We can be better and we can do better. We can break chains and stop cycles.
I want to help you, dear reader. I want to exchange ideas and hope and encouragement in a safe space. I want to give you love in a safe & friendly way. I want to give a strong foundation for your recovery when you’re ready. In your own time, in your own unique and beautiful way. I want to do life and recovery with you, my friend.